At last I had decided to share with you my current state of mind.
Finally, it is over. The flat that I bought with my ex-boyfriend has been sold after 2 years since we split up, well, "I split up". He made it sure that I would rembember this detail. He refused to get an agreement in the early stages. He accussed me of being selfhish...anything you can think of. Just because I did not want to conintue a relatonship where I did not mean anything. He stopped copming to visit me in London, he never had time to talk to me on the phone, he flirted with his ex in fornt of me, ..I could not tsake any more and the end arrived!
He refused to get an agreement. He expected me to sell him my part without any earnings. He tried to split me up wiht my friends...finally I had to get solicitors involved (with some financial loss).
Now I do not feel that anyone has won. Both of us have lost in differnt ways.
However, my ex-boyfriend has shown me that he wants to hurt me more or looking for a reaction (I have ot contacted him for over 1 year). He continues with mind games trying to unsettle me. He sometimes gets the results!
When you are in a relationship, you get to know the good and bad things of the other person. But would you use this information to make them suffer?
I could not do it...If a relationship does not work, I would be sad, angry....but we need to move on.
What kind of person he is? How I was so blind? Definitely, I need to stop thinking of him and move on...
buddies
Maybe the idea is not to stop thinking of him but to stop thinking that you lost. On the whole, each relationship is a set of wins and gains for both parties. It becomes more complicated when finances and shared properties are involved and perhaps that is why you are mourning; now that the flat is sold, there is nothing that bind to this man, and I say that with caution, and that is the sad part.
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Mariand; you say you split up, obviously you had your reasons but if he was worthy of your efforts, don’t you think he would have made an attempt to claim you back, change his behaviour, be a better more sensible person; HE DIDNT. He chose to stay at your shared property, a place where he paid nothing to maintain.
Don’t fight what you are feeling, talking about it is great but allowing your self to go through the process, despite of it being draining is also a great therapeutic approach.
We should know, we are supposedly the experts